Category: Lifestyle

Brick Wall - Setting Goals and Meeting Resistance on Day One!

Setting Goals and Meeting Resistance on Day One

How do you push back what some would call “failure”, and just reset and restart your goals? Well, alas I set my goals, but I met resistance on day one. I have not done so well so far with the gym. I took a turn for the worse health wise with a cold, then sleeplessness, and then just a big time round of lazy. So the result, haven’t gotten much exercise in, and certainly not meeting any goals that I have set. So, what does that mean? Not, doesn’t mean that I have given up, I just need to be more realistic, give myself a break, and start over. It’s ok to do that, because as you know any goal not met wasn’t really a goal anyway, just a wish. You can’t beat yourself up over it, just review, and persevere. The plan now is to focus on the blogging more (one of the goals), and see here I am doing it, and it’s almost 11 at night. Better late than never as they say. Plus in my column. On Tuesday, I hope to have a gym morning. Now, the reason I’m not starting tomorrow is simple. I tend to have trouble winding down on Sunday nights (like now), so come Monday a 5:00 a.m. wake-up call would not work. If I do as I did when I was more disciplined, I did see myself getting up early on all days, but it took the establishing of a routine, and I am far from that point just yet. So, there you have it. The old me might have said that I failed yet again, but this time will be different. It is different. I am going to just forget what I didn’t do, and focus on what I can do.

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Day One - The Mature Man

Day One at the Gym

What it felt like being back Today was day one at the gym. My 100 day challenge for going to the gym for 100 days in a row has begun. Yay, for me…..I’m already pooped! I saw my former trainer today Chris, and he looked surprised that I was there. I guess he had reason to be since it had been about 3 weeks since I saw him last, and he commented “where have you been”  that time. Before that, I guess it had been almost a month, so I guess that he had good reason to comment. After working out with me for so many months, perhaps he was discouraged how quickly I fell off the wagon. You know, I was asking myself that today when I was on the treadmill. How did I go from going to the gym 3 – 4 days a week on average, and being there every morning usually around 5:30 or so, to not going at all? In the course of the weeks, months that I wasn’t going regularly, I have seen myself gain back ALL the weight that I had lost. What’s more concerning is that I feel rotten, sorta smushy and bloated all the time. Tiredness is common, and not sleeping. Not good for anyone, especially a more mature man. Sure, I have made some bad food choices, like too many sweets, fried foods, etc. Some days I would use my app to keep track, but most days I just gave up even trying to count. I knew that I was pigging out, and I guess that I was ok with it. Well, not really. One time when I was working out with Chris he gave me this bit of advice which said had helped him. He told me that I

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A One Day Delay - Sparklers

A One Day Delay

Blame it on the Firecrackers and Cake Today I had planned to start my 100 day challenge, but there has been a one day delay. Well, some of my challenge is not delayed, the parts about blogging for 100 days in a row is actually on day two, that is if I complete today. I don’t see any reason that I wouldn’t, so day two is in the can as they say. The part of the challenge that I had to wait on was the gym in the morning at 5 a.m. That definitely did not happen today! Some little details that I forgot is that starting the gym after gorging yourself on good food, later in the day than you usually eat,  is not a good day after to start a challenge like this. The day after a holiday that includes rockets in the air late at night, is definitely NOT a good day after to start a wake up early routine. What I found is that I went to bed full. Full of thoughts about some of the crazy, and sometimes frustrating discussions that were had at the table. Then, after finally settling into bed, then hearing “pop pop pop”, “boom” etc. for hours did not help me to get to sleep at any reasonable hour to have a self-inflicted 4:30 a.m. wake-up call. Dinner for me is usually at 5 or so, since I work from home. Sure there are exceptions, but being a bit older, and I laugh at myself, I do like to eat pretty early. Sometimes, I feel like I can barely wait! I understand now how restaurants like to do early bird deals for more mature people, and seniors. It’s because they know that they get hungry earlier in the day. That’s when

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The 100 Day Adventure - Fining my direction

The 100 Day Adventure

Well, today is the beginning of my 100 day adventure. At least that is what I am calling it anyway. 100 days or what may be the hardest thing that I have ever tried in my life, or perhaps will be 100 days of the easiest. Time will tell which one. I have read a lot of posts lately which speak of how someone go about defining goals, stop procrastinating on EVERYTHING, and get back on track. I am a huge (say it like Donald Trump) fan of procrastination. I’m not sure who I get it from, or perhaps I grew the trait on my own. (wishing that I could blame on someone else) Anyway, I love to put off till next month, what I can get done today in five minutes. Yes, it’s that bad, really. Doesn’t really what it is either. It can be starting a diet (more on that later). It can be doing accounting for my business, I don’t even want to dig into that just yet. It can be filing (yes, been known to hide files), and organizing documents. My procrastination can be something as challenging as taxes, light as taking things to Goodwill, making dinner plans for a Birthday, doesn’t matter. You name it, if I can put it off till later, I will put it off till the last panic-filled minute. So, now I am at yet another crossroads, and I am trying to take all the feedback from these articles, and I am trying something, an experiment. I have put in my calendar the following items for the next 100 days. First, it’s time for me to get back to the gym. Do something other than work on the computer all day, watching my butt grow with every Trader Joe’s chocolate peanut butter cup.

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Who is that old man in the mirror

Who is that old man in the mirror?

I had a bad sinus headache last night, and took some NyQuil (just one tablet) so that I could get some rest. When I woke up, I did my usual thing, washed my face, contacts, then looked in the mirror. When I stared sleepy eyed, I asked myself, “who is that old man in the mirror”? Who is that? Now, I can’t say that I am really that old. I think that you would agree that 50 plus is not old these days. Its just that I looked in the mirror, and I saw a man that I did not recognize. Or perhaps I did not want to recognize. How did I become by Father? Actually my Dad is still a very active guy. Actually more active than his son on most days. He plays golf, mows his own lawn most weeks, shovels snow, etc. Well, maybe the snow part not so much since he and Mom now get to Florida for the coldest months. Yet, as I stared in the mirror this morning, I didn’t want to recognize myself. Sure it was the same guy that stared at himself yesterday. And thinking back to yesterday, I probably said the same thing. “Who is that”? Yet, today was different. I am thinking that the reason that it took me back may have as much to do with writing this blog. It’s an awakening of sorts. My realizing that I am in a place that I didn’t know that I could or would want to find, and I am not too happy about it. So, what’s next? What do I do after I saw that guy in the mirror. Well, for starts, this blog. That is the first step. In time, we will see if this is a nurturing of sorts,

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Gym bottle for The Mature Man day one

Video – At 50, Can I Build My Body?

Can I build my body when I am man of a more mature age? When I decided to start on this website, I did a bit of research, trying to decide what I was even going to write about. I know at 50 plus, I am struggling with my health a LOT these days, so I thought that maybe I would go in that direction. As I searched the internet, trying to drill down on what I was planning to write about, or maybe just even figure out what was on my mind, I stumbled on this video question by Lee Hayward. I don’t know who Lee Hayward is, perhaps I am supposed to, but I did like that he was taking a question from a guy just like me, and answering it honestly. Maybe a bit too much so for some! The question is pretty telling about why it’s so much more challenging at 50 plus to get to the gym, survive a workout, and see results. I guess that I knew these things, but maybe I just hadn’t thought them all the way through. He points out, that in your 50’s your body doesn’t react to the gym as it did in your twenties. Well, that is assuming if you even went to the gym in your twenties, which I know that I did not. No time, with all the partying, etc. I needed to do first. Anyway, watch the video, and let me know what you think. Does it apply to you too, has Lee figured it out?  

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Whats next in my life - Santa Fe NM

Today is Day One

Day One of The Mature Man I decided to write a blog, and this is the first post. I have had websites many times before, and some I still have for my business, but this is a first of a personal nature. What is this blog going to be about you ask? Well, first off let me tell you some things about me. I am in my mid-50’s, and live sorta in the middle of the US. Not a big deal, right! Not in a small town or anything like that, so this won’t be a blog about trying to fight back, or fit in, or just cope, though sometimes don’t be surprised. I guess what this blog will be about it taking back. I have lived perhaps half my life already, but I guess I have half as much to go, give or take. What I am not sure of, or perhaps better to state, stressed out about, is this. What’s next? Let’s see where those last two words of that last paragraph takes us. I’m not really sure myself, but I know that I feel a tiny bit better just having put it out there! We will see…  

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